General Parenting and Problems With Bonding
Despite their intentions to be loving and attentive parents, many people struggle with raising their kids in a way that makes them feel proud and confident . Parenting can lead to anxiety, self-doubt, guilt, exhaustion, loss of identity, and marital conflict. You can read Dr. Rodman's articles about these issues on her blog. Having a baby, particularly for those with unresolved issues about their own upbringing, can open old wounds that you may have hoped you had "gotten over." As children age and parents aspire to be positive role models, feelings of insecurity and sadness about children witnessing marital issues may be the primary concern. Addressing children's difficult behavioral issues is also a major stressor for many parents. Spouses/partners who were raised in different environments often come into conflict about appropriate ways to parent, discipline, and create a loving home. Furthermore, today's extraordinarily high standards for involved, attentive parenting can often cause more harm than good.
All of these concerns can benefit from open discussion with a therapist. Dr. Rodman is a parent of three children (oldest pictured here when she was only two days old). She has both the training and personal experience to help you explore the origin of many of your current parenting challenges, as well as to help you take practical and gradual steps to work on parenting challenges. (Dr. Rodman does not work with children, but if you feel that your child needs a therapist, she highly recommends Waypoint Wellness Center.)
Only children, when adults, sometimes find certain challenges in life and interpersonal relationships. Often, these revolve around difficulties with boundaries and wanting very intense connections. Dr. Rodman is experienced with working with adult only children and their unique perspectives and issues.
If you have issues bonding with or liking your baby or child, you are not alone. Shame may have stopping you from seeking treatment till now, but it doesn't have to stop you going forward. We can work through the issues that are preventing you from enjoying parenthood and work together to help you be the parent you want. I have helped many parents feel loving and close to their children, and this is actually one of the most meaningful transformations that I can witness in therapy. It is my honor to facilitate a more loving bond between parents and their baby or child.
If you are separating or divorcing from your co-parent, you are likely feeling overwhelmed, stressed, angry, frustrated, and lonely. It is hard to work through these emotions while communicating to your child in the healthiest way possible about his or her changing family structure. Dr. Rodman's book, How to Talk to Your Kids About Your Divorce, addresses all of these issues, and she would love to help you through this challenging time.